I am an extremely mellow person and I never get enraged or outraged, but it didn’t always use to be that way. When I was married my husband would infuriate me with his nonchalant attitude. I remember one time pleading with him to help me with the house, (I was working full time, and having to manage our house, my health and a sick cat all on my own) and he laughed at me saying, “that’s woman’s work.” And this was a common occurrence. Getting him to do anything was simply an act of god.

I had a constant feeling of exasperation, and hopelessness and this went on for ten years. During the end, just before we got divorced, I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. I knew that my health was a direct result of our marriage. I knew that the rage, sadness, and anger that I harbored in my body resulted in that tumor. I had manifested it.

Fast forward to my life now. I’m in an incredibly supportive relationship, filled with intense love and respect. I go to yoga regularly and meditate everyday. Because I have learned how to work with my own energy with the help of feng shui and buddhist teachings, I never get upset and I know how to roll with the punches. But with out the right tools, and the right people around you this can be incredibly difficult to achieve. I know for a fact that I could not have gotten to this state of bliss with that toxic behavior in my life. And I can guarantee you that if I had stayed in that relationship I probably would be even more sick today than I was back then.

Shocking truth about rage

Have you ever heard the saying, the right way is not always the easy way? Well staying in a state of rage is detrimental to your health. Here are some side effects to rage:

  • Headaches
  • Problems with digestion
  • Insomnia
  • Increased anxiety
  • Depression
  • Blood sugar imbalance
  • Chronic inflammation
  • Suppressed immune system
  • Slows metabolism
  • Irregular breathing
  • Causes weight gain and severe weight loss
  • Gastric ulcers
  • Memory impairment
  • High blood pressure
  • Skin Problems, like eczema
  • Heart Attack
  • Stroke

According to the principles of feng shui, rage depicts an imbalance not only in our own energy system, but also in our environment. A severe imbalance causes manifestation of unwanted energy in all forms. And that means the people you surround yourself with too!

I was recently listening to one of my favorite podcasts, The Tim Ferris Show, and he had Tara Brach on. She shared an amazing story about an army sergeant who was ordered to undergo mindfulness courses, to manage his rage, and I think this is a valuable lesson for all of us to learn. Rage not only effects our own health, but the health and well-being of those around you – and my friend, you don’t know what that person is going through. Tara’s story

“An Army sergeant who battled with enormous amounts of rage was ordered to undergo mindfulness classes to control his rage by learning breathing exercises. While at the grocery store one day he noticed that the woman in front of him had a small child and only two items in her hand. This immediately triggered his rage. How thoughts raced through his head, “Why is she standing in this line? The express line is open, why is she ruining my day and causing me inconvenience?” To make matters worse, when the woman got to the counter she handed the child to the clerk. At this point the army sergeant was enraged. The grocery clerk laughed and giggled with the child and enjoyed her company immensely, despite the army sergeant’s obvious displeasure. Finally, after many minutes went by, the army sergeant finally got to the counter.

The clerk immediately said hello and beamed with joy in her eyes. The sergeant softened and said, “cute girl.” The clerk smiled, and then went on to tell the sergeant that her mother brought her daughter by twice a day so that she could see her now that she has to work. She continued to tell the sergeant that like him, her husband was in the army and was killed last year in Afghanistan, so to support her family she figured out a way to make it work. And she thanked him for his service and for being kind and patient.

It was then that the sergeant realized that the clerk’s husband was one of them, and had died serving his country. He also realized his rage was completely misguided, and could have hurt not only his own health, but the well-being of those around him, like this loving mother trying to make her new situation work.”

If you don’t walk away from that story with greater insight, you may not have come to terms with your conversation with rage. One of my favorite quotes by Brad Wagner:

“You’ll sometimes hear the idea that our emotions are the things that keep us human. They are not. Our emotions – all of them – get in the way of us experiencing what it really is to be human.”

Buddhist teachings tell us that anger is one of the three poisons. Anger, greed and ignorance. And to cultivate metta, or loving kindness towards others without attachment – AKA, rage towards the guy who cut you off in traffic – you must learn to let it go.

Harboring rage, and anger destroys your internal house and external environment. It will effect everything and everyone around you. As Eckhart Tolle teaches in his book The Power of Now, you must get your inner house in order before the external will fall in to place.

If you are battling rage please check out this 100% free program on mindfulness to help you with stress, anxiety and better overall health. Just ten minutes a day of mindful breathing can change your life. Want to take it a step further? Start practicing yoga, and eat a wholesome diet that nourishes you. It has been proven that our gut health is directly related to our mood – so if you are consuming a bunch of junk you’re likely to experience mood swings, and thats not a good combination for someone battling inner demons.


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