We’ve all been there, jaded, worn out, working way too many hours and over extending ourselves for the purpose of…..who knows what. The last thing we want to do is over exert ourselves in the throws of passion when we could do something super sexy like sleep. But if it were truly passionate and something to look forward to rather than just ‘another thing to do’, would we get to the place of just ignoring the obvious? Think about the first time you meet someone and how they make you feel. The deadline at the end of the week, the piles of paperwork that need to be taken care of and the obligations we all have fall to the wayside by the pure excitement and desire we hold for that person. Who needs sleep when you could stay up until three in the morning laughing, enjoying moments of pleasure with a special someone, and truly enjoying their company.
However, all good things must come to an end, or do they? Many couples allow themselves to get bogged down with the responsibilities of daily life and stop enjoying the simple pleasures of intimacy. Always looking far ahead, or far behind but never stopping to see what’s in front of them. Many of my clients homes are meticulous in the public spaces but often have an absolute mess in their bedroom. Their nightstands are covered in paperwork, computer and phone cords everywhere, electronics galore and the rooms haven’t been updated since 1994. Being surrounded by such chaos is not exactly a mood booster, nor is it sexy. Here are four things you can do to spice up your sex life through the magic of design:
1) Get rid of the clutter
Get rid of the clutter, get rid of the clutter, get rid of the clutter! I cannot say this enough. Clutter is overwhelming and stresses us out, which makes us want to rush and have incomplete thoughts. Enjoy the moments in your life, bask in them and create an environment that supports them like a beautifully decorated bedroom. This includes having nightstands for both partner, good lighting, and a well coordinated room.
2) Proper linens
Having just experienced this with my new beau, most people (especially men) don’t realize the importance of good linens. Shit linens from Wal-mart you picked up on sale hardly sets a mood of intimacy. When your linens feel like sand paper, you’re more likely to sleep with clothes on to avoid the brillo pad against your skin. And that brings us to our next suggestion, having appropriate sleepwear should you choose to wear it.
Find something comfortable but always stay away from sweats and stained t-shirts. Find a happy medium, and always keep it fresh. Like great interiors it all starts with the style, look and fabric. Simple changes can make all the difference and vamp up your sex life for the better.
This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Lighting creates a glamourous and sensual mood. Maximize good lighting with candles, put lights on dimmers and learn to unwind and relax in your bedroom. It is not a space to catch up on emails, read the news or watch late night TV. And the lighting kit on your ceiling fan does not count as lighting! Create a space free from all the daily bullshit. One room in your house should feel comfortable, easy and have no obligations attached to it….other than a really good time, and rest. It should help you decompress and get in the mood to enjoy your partner. Even if it’s just for thirty minutes intimacy can recharge your batteries and inspire you in unimaginable ways, and ultimately boost your mood!
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