In the fall of 2011 I was at a crossroads in my life. Stay in a marriage that had gone way beyond it’s expiration date or take the leap into the unknown; a place I hadn’t been in 15 years. I chose to leave. It was the hardest most scariest thing I’d ever done. I chose my heart over my head. Unfortunately, that comes with a few consequences. It requires leaving relationships, family and security…..all things that didn’t hit my train of thought until major decisions were already made.
In the early spring of 2012 I met one of my dearest friends, Chris Alexandria. Chris is a life coach who also happens to be very intuitive. She immediately picked up on a repetitive pattern that I carried over from my marriage: Not being worthy or good enough. Do you do this? Question yourself, ask yourself if your good enough for XYZ? Well for fifteen years I was in a marriage to a man who told me I wasn’t good enough. He made it abundantly clear that everything I did was never quite the mark or up to par. From dinner to life decisions to business he opinions were the one that counted, not mine. Ironically, when he met me I was a very confident and vibrant person. But after 15 years of being told something, well you begin to believe it.
Insert Chris and her wealth of knowledge here. She introduced me to the Hawaiian Mantra of Ho’oponopono. So what the heck is that you ask? It is an ancient practice to achieve reconciliation and forgiveness from family members. It is considered by many as a mental and energetic cleanse. A cutting of the cord so to speak. Through Ho’pono one uses the following mantra:
I am sorry
Please forgive me
I love you.
This is achieved through prayer, statement of the problem, working through the problem (through cooperation) and not holding fault, and finally reflection. Like planting a seed, this mantra is used as a tool to cleanse the heart, heal the wounds and return and restore relationships mentally. It’s a way to find your “happy”.
For myself, I was able to do Ho’pono on the memory of my relationship and our patterns. I visualized him, our marriage and the words he used towards me and repeated: I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. I did this before our court dates, our deposition, and our final settlement. By doing Ho’pono I mentally released the energetic patterns that were negative, released them and let them go because they no longer served me.
If you are holding onto something that has hurt you, weighed you down or effected you in a negative way, I highly recommend you try this mantra. It is an excellent practice in forgiveness and allowing positive change into your life so you too can find your happy!